Sam Bellet '15 Addresses the Freshmen at the Annual Patch Ceremony
Hello,
my name is Sam Bellet, and after attending MBA for six years now, I’d like to
share with you some advice I wish I had received when I was sitting where you
are today. Two of the biggest challenges you will encounter at MBA are keeping
a sense of identity and being confident in your character. You probably won’t
encounter these challenges in some huge event in your life. These struggles
will most likely come in the form of little everyday setbacks. My goal today is
to prepare you for these situations. The next four years of your life will be
the most important in determining who you are. Again, the forming of who you
are won’t come in one fell swoop, it will come little by little, but you should
still keep in mind that even the smallest decisions in your everyday life can
add up and form who you will be.
Most
of you are well grounded in regard to character; you wouldn’t be at MBA if this
were not the case. One of your biggest challenges won’t be knowing what’s right
or what’s wrong; it will be gathering the confidence to do what’s right. You
all have a strong moral compass but that doesn’t mean you will not be tempted
in your day-to-day life. When you are faced with situations where you have to
make a choice, the biggest deception you need to watch out for is the idea that
your friends want you to act one way or another. Right now you are, maybe
without even knowing it, trying to figure out what’s acceptable in the eyes of
your friends. What I came to terms with throughout high school is that these
guys aren’t watching you to see whether or not you are cool, they are watching
you because they want to know how they should act. Friends subconsciously set
standards for each other, and the moment someone does something stupid, that
action lowers the standard for what is ok to do. So basically, don’t think that
your friends are constantly rating you on a scale of one to cool. Be mindful
that your actions have just as much of an effect on them as theirs do on you.
Be confident in your character and don’t be afraid to act the way you should.
All of you probably know Cole Euverard, some of you may know him as the
quarterback, or that guy on the high-five a microbe video. Well, Cole is
probably one of the most likeable guys in our grade. Probably anyone in our grade
you ask will say that they love Cole. And the most remarkable thing about
Cole’s popularity is that he is simultaneously one of the most virtuous people
in our class. Cole is a living example of someone who is well-loved simply
because he is confident in who he is and will never compromise his character
for anything in the world. He doesn’t have to prove he’s cool by going to
parties or doing stupid stuff, people just respect him for who he is because
he’s proud of it.
The
second danger in high school is the thinking that everyone around you goes
through life with no trouble at all and any mistakes they make don’t faze them.
If you get discouraged during high school, which you will, realize that your
friends go through the exact same difficulties in their life. The true men here
at MBA are those who realize that, when they are discouraged, the easy way out
is not always the correct way. Last December, after losing ten pounds and a
bunch of wrestling matches, I went into the doctor and discovered I have type 1
diabetes. Luckily, I had received the same advice I just gave you, and I did
not let this get me down. I was able to recognize that, although maybe in
different ways, other people have problems just as bad as mine. What separates
each one of us is how we deal with these problems, and those who get caught up
in how bad they have it will be the ones who fail. So ,whenever you feel like
maybe you should just lay down and give up, keep in mind these words from Dale
Carnegie: “Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to
success.” Just remember that your problems will make you stronger as soon as
you realize that these setbacks are nothing but setbacks.
Lastly,
I want to express to you guys the importance of identity, especially at a place
like MBA. When I first came here, I was following in the footsteps of my five
older brothers. This was very irritating for me because everyone I met who knew
of my brothers immediately placed me in this category of the “Catholic
wrestler.” Although I do not deny that I am both of these things, I remember
being so upset that people didn’t think twice about who I was after I told them
that I was a Bellet, because, if you know my family well, you know that all of
us are so much different from each other. As I progressed through MBA, though,
I realized that identity is not so much about what other people think you are
as it is about what you know you are. I encourage you never to settle for what
people call you or presume you to be. You determine that for yourself. This
doesn’t mean that you have to get up at assembly one day and announce to
everybody who you are, it just means that you should live your life as you, not
as somebody else’s perception of you. As a senior, I still encounter this
temptation to change the way I do things in order to look more like something I
am not. Thankfully, I get sick of putting on an act like that very quickly
because you can’t be comfortable constantly making sure you appear to be
somebody you are not. Be resilient in your day-to-day life, focusing less on
your setbacks and more on solutions, and soon enough, you will be confident in living
life as yourself, and people will begin to respect you for who you are. The
more you block out discouragement, the easier being yourself will be. While
living in this way, you should also help others to do so and recognize those in
your class for who they are. When you walk out of this building with your
patches on, look around and see that others are wearing patches too. Others
have difficulties they are encountering, others are forming their identity, and
others are going through MBA, just like you. So I want to challenge you to try
and recognize each one of your classmates for who they truly are. Most of the
classes before you did not really have a sense of unity until senior year came
around because, until then, nobody realizes what I’m telling you now. So, if
you ever catch yourself assuming that one of your classmates fits some category
of people, clear that idea from your mind and really try to get to know him.